This is why I love this woman so much...
Honestly peeps, I reckon that the reason 98% of us aren’t getting shit done
as quickly and easily as it can be is because we are ENDLESS DISTRACTED BY SHINY
And by shiny things, I mean the internet.
Yeah yeah, I know I know. I get it. The internet is important. Hey, the
internet is where I run my whole business.
But guess what? Being ONLINE is NOT my job.
Nor is it yours.
Get the fuck off the internet + just do your shit already.
I love that last sentence!!!!
We all know she has a seriously huge point right?
I totally need Leonie's no BS direct approach because when it isn't something that is particularly an issue for me at that time (rare!), it's still hugely fun to read and puts a smile on my face, so that's great, but when I do need to hear what she is saying - whoa! - that direct sentence there above? That goes straight into my nozzle bypassing all the excuses, procrastinating, fear, reasoning, BUTs... and I smile to myself.
I cannot ignore it. I don't want to ignore it. Thank you!
I WANT TO GET S**T DONE!
And yes I've had a busy, particularly active month with lots of travelling etc. BUT! (Behold the Underlying Truth)...
there is lots more I could have accomplished this month with some concerted effort and direct intention setting. If I focused on one or two things each day and kept them in mind from the start, not allowing myself to wander into other distractions until I had completed them. I would have felt so much pride in myself, and would have experienced the wonderful buzz that comes from that sense of accomplishment ~ when your subsequent reward time feels all the more sweet because you truly feel you earned it and so you surrender yourself over to the fun and relaxation wholeheartedly! Whether that reward is an outing, a read of a novel, an hour on social media, or a movie.
I get so much of a thrill interacting with so many people online that I forget that I can get caught up in stroking my own ego, distracting myself with fuzzy things, & whiling away almost as much time as I used to spend watching TV when I used to have one.
Now Ang, having freed up ALL of that lovely time, attention and energy from all the telly watching you used to do (NO TV willpower here - had to lose the TV so I could practice actually living my life and not just watching other people live theirs), how's about your don't just replace it with another distraction that can eat up even more time than the TV did - and worse - because you are aware of sitting and doing nothing while watching TV, whereas you can fool yourself into thinking you are 'working' when lost in the depths of social media, blogs, jokes, inspirational messages and videos... . . blah blah blah.
...Those things are all marvellous, and an important ingredient to my keeping-my-vibe-high practices. IN MODERATION.
One timed session in the morning (e.g. 9-10 every day is social media time, or set an alarm for the period you choose) and another in the afternoon or evening, is plenty to keep you fully up-to-date with all your peeps, not feel 'left out' and even get some entertainment, education, and inspiration in there too.
I know you love it.
I don't believe you cut it out altogether.
Just do what works for you.
Is it better if you stay away from it all morning and get 3 or 4 hours of productive / work-based / house cleaning / creative time in first and then allow yourself the indulgence in the afternoon?
Or if you are like me, I need to check on my FB groups for my current online programme, and so I KNOW I won't resist checking up on all my friends too. And there will be quite a lot of notifications because so many of my contacts are US based, and so they weren't sleeping when I was.
So, for me it works to check through for important stuff, respond to my clients and direct messages, and glance through the non-important stuff, leave my sparkle dotted around the interwebs :) and motivate or cheer up or give love to whoever I feel needs it, and then I can get on with my day without it bugging me. Without thinking I have missed something important among those notifications.
And feeling good about my contribution.
When I set a clear and specific set of intentions for my web presence, such as building on a relationship with a contact by sending a relevant personal meaningful direct message, expressing gratitude to somebody or boosting someone online so that I have spread my magic out that day, or doing a burst of marketing my next programme... That is when I can feel the magic happen, for very little effort or time taken.
Too often, it is the opposite when I browse aimlessly and ignore / forget my original plan for logging on in the first place - lots of time spent 'working' and yet I find it hard to figure out what I have to show for that day or half day's 'work'. I do not feel a sense of magic making in those moments.
So - here I am all caught up, for now, on Facebook. I work my way through the list of notifications, check my messages and business page, and then leave. When you know people from all over the world, those new updates will come through thick and fast for 24 hours of the day - watcha gonna do? Sit there wired up to your device and read each one as they come through?
No! so leave. Finish. Draw and line under it and do the real stuff for a while. The exciting stuff.
The stuff you were meant to do - BE YOU. LOTS.
Interacting with people. Who's lonely you could phone up today or visit? Write. Draw. Paint. Fiddle. Tinker. Rearrange your house. Tend to your garden. Breathe some fresh air in deeply. Create a work of art. Blitz that laundry so you enter the weekend with some freed up mental space; that feeling of being more on top of things.
That laundry pile? That pile of paperwork that hasn't been filed? It all weighs you down mentally and makes the really groovy stuff nearly impossible to get done. Free yourself up.
Write an article or ebook. Make a piece of jewellery. Design a homemade game or toy for the children. Cook up a storm in the kitchen to get ahead of things, ready to stock your fridge or freezer so you can feel like Supermum for a few days and gift your future self with that extra time. Heck, go for a dang walk - never to be underestimated.
I haven't looked on Instagram or Twitter or Pinterest yet today and I don't plan to until I am on an entertainment break - to reward myself for a job well done! Or this evening when I am too tired to be good for much else :o)
I am hitting publish on this blog post and then working through my small to-do list of 'What Matters Most' to me today.
(which if you are interested is art, because I have neglected my creativity for nearly a month now, plus, I have people waiting to get their hands on my artwork, so I want to make some more pieces so that I can launch my Ki Life Crafts online store)
So ask yourself. Right now. Today.
What matters most?